Teen Refuses To Take Family’s New Last Name, Mom Calls It A Betrayal

There are always going to be some problems when two families blend together. There are boundaries, loyalties and other questions that all need to be resolved, in what is generally a pretty emotionally charged situation. One such tripping point can even be the names and last names people decide to keep for themselves.

A teen asked the internet if he was wrong to insist on keeping his late father’s last name even after his mom remarried and he ended up in a blended family. We reached out to the young man who made the post via private message and will update the article when he gets back to us.

Keeping a parent’s surname is a way to honor their legacy

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But one teen ended up getting into conflict with his mother over it

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Teen wants to keep late father’s last name despite mother upset after remarriage and family name changes.

Teen wants to keep late father’s last name despite mother’s upset over family name change request.

Teen wants to keep late father’s last name, causing upset with mother over blended family identity.

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Teen wants to keep late father’s last name despite mother being upset about the decision and family conflicts.

Teen wants to keep late father last name while mother upset about family activities and name choices.

Teen and mother having a serious conversation in a living room, teen wants to keep late father’s last name.

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Teen wants to keep late father’s last name despite mother upset about the decision and family tension.

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He gave some more thoughts in the comments

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Most saw his side of the conflict

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