A new mum has shared her shock after being ordered to change her son’s name for an outrageous reason, and the woman believes her sister-in-law who made the demand is in the wrong
A woman has slammed her sister-in-law for ordering her to change her son’s name so she can give the moniker to her own newborn. The 32-year-old explained how she has her partner, 34, welcomed their son, Liam Alexander, into the world recently – but say it took them the full nine months to come up with a name for him.
Just 24 hours after his birth, however, her sister-in-law asked her to change his name because she was thinking about using it for a future child – despite having never mentioned this before. Taking to Reddit to vent her frustration, she said: “My partner’s sister Katie has two kids, James, six, and William, four, with her husband, Mike, and he has a daughter, 10, with his ex.
“My partner and I didn’t settle on a name for our son until the day of his birth. I have always loved the name Liam, for its sound and meaning, and was over the moon when my partner finally agreed to one of the names on my list.
“24 hours after Liam was born our families came to meet him, his sister being one of the first. We announced his name to her and her immediate response was, ‘Oh, I’ve always loved the name Liam, but Mike wouldn’t let me use it for our first son! Could you change it? Maybe call him Alexander as his first name? Its sounds nicer!'”
Shocked by her request, she firmly told her she wouldn’t be changing the name but can empathise with for not being able to use it for her firstborn.
She said: “I thought that was the end of it until she visited us at home, a week later, and brought it up again. The reason Mike didn’t let her use the name is because his ex has a son with that name.
“I told that shouldn’t have stopped her from using the name she loved. Those boys do not know each other, do not go to the same school, don’t have the same last name and basically live separate existences outside of their shared half-sister.
“I also said she could still use the name in future, it’s common in my culture and tends to serve as a bond between the kids.”
But now she has started to wonder whether she’s being unreasonable despite having never discussed baby names with Kate.
She added: ” Katie and I have never discussed baby names, and we have no name pacts. The only reason I feel like the a***hole is because Mike and his ex have a toxic co-parenting relationship, and this understandably affects Katie. Katie and I have a good relationship but she doesn’t talk about Mike’s ex, so this is as much as I know.”
Commenting on her post, one user said: “This had to be the most ridiculous name change request I’ve ever seen on Reddit. Essentially, she’s jealous because she wasn’t allowed to use that name. That’s between her and her husband. You have nothing to do with that.”
Another user added: “It’s remarkably rude to ask someone to change their child’s name, and even if it wasn’t, you have made some perfectly good points about the fact that Katie can, if she wants and her partner agrees, name a future child Liam.”
A third user said: “That was not a reasonable request in the slightest, and it was rude to even ask. No prior agreement, no communication, nothing that would be a reason to avoid a name.”
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